Being authentic. What an achievement it is to arrive at the door of such dignity. Many never get there, & some die trying to reach the door. Some would rather stay in denial, & away from themselves, & many aggressively pursue the path of the destructive as a way of hurting others so as not to look inside at their inner pain.
In my previous Blog I began to understand what it actually means to be authentic, & what came up for me was a deeper understanding of my process of transition that is taking place & seeing me stepping back into the world again, & away from my fear of it.
Fear. A small word that conjures up images of all sorts of terrors. At worst, it can lead people to take their own lives, & yet it is such a small word. So why do we allow it to take up such a large part of our lives ? The fact is we actually don`t, but what we do allow is for our lack of self-worth to shatter our desire to realsie our objectives. Then vulnerability takes hold in many other tiny areas within our emotional state, & we then have no idea why we cannot accomplish what it is that we desire to achieve.
What do I mean by this ? Well, many scenarios that we go through in our lives rely heavily upon us to be strong, focused, & grounded, so that we can achieve an objective, but a large percentage of us, most of the time, cannot do this. Through a lack of self-worth, we sabotage these objectives before they have a chance to materialise, & the only way of breaking this cycle of futility is by getting authentic & facing our fears. So the point I was making was that fear is just an illusion, & actually does not exist. It is other, more profound emotions that exist, but they have nothing to do with fear. This could be a person, for example, who is afraid of the police knocking on their door after they have committed a crime. Now, it`s easy for you to say, " that is fear ", but you would be wrong, because what it is, is guilt. The man knows he has committed a crime, but has tried to get away with his act of treachery against another, & now feels the shame of guilt at being confronted by his actions. Fear does not actually enter the equation. The man is in the wrong, & for whatever reason, chose to commit the crime, yet does not want to be arrested. He is, in fact, nervous, guilty, ashamed, but not fearful. The point I am cutting hairs over is this; fear is the false emotion one uses to cover up the real cause of why we do something. Shame plays a bigger part in the dysfunctional behaviour that leads onto the cause of so many reasons as to why one sabotages themselves. So many crisis of faith could be averted if one could only find the gumption to face up to their responsibilities, & be authentic with themselves. Being honest, brave & conscientious does take courage, of course, & time too, depending on the depth of the problems, but it is something to be proud of once it is achieved, & as my profile states, should be the ultimate goal of every person on the planet.
Check out your feeling. Is it really fear, or are you just kidding yourself because you don`t feel worthy of achieving that goal of yours ? Because if you can be honest with yourself, you will see that you are not afraid of anything at all, but that deep inside of you there is another emotion that wants to be heard. Listen to it, & you will get that goal in the bag, straight away. Deny it, & call it fear, & you will lose out. Don`t be a loser, due to emotional ignorance, hear what your feelings are trying to tell you, & start reaping the rewards that is your destiny.
Peace
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