SELF DEVELOPMENT, PT 2: LOVE; LETTING GO OF THE PAST.

 When things begin to change in our lives it can have a dramatic effect upon our ability to function normally. Something heavy & disturbing leaving the psyche will leave a deliberate protruding upon our solar plexus, leaving one feeling groggy & tired.

 This heaviness is a type of issue, if you like, that is slowly working its way through the emotional senses so that when it does finally leave you one always ends up feeling lighter & more agreeable, with more clarity about ones direction.

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 A similar process is comparable to that of eating something disagreeable. Once the ill effect has been felt, the poison will begin the journey of leaving its host, within 24 hours, if you are of healthy structure. One should then begin reverting back ones normal state of mind & body. Although, the issue will always take longer to be rid of, then 24 hours, unless your the Buddha, or someone, for it stubbornly hangs onto the host for as a long as it can because the ego has been convinced it needs to hold onto it, when it doesn`t.

 The actual problem is holding onto things that are no longer good for us. This things that cause us to stay connected to that which no longer enhances our lives, but keeps it attached to the past, are so bad for us that they cause us to live only half a life. Holding onto tangible things such as, items, people, processed food, or non-material things, like unproductive emotions, can have dire effects upon the progression of ones path in life. When one does feel ready to let go of the past, & the process of ` loosening` can take place, the upheaval will begin, but it is usually the most frightening part of the whole process. Fearful because the ego has been convinced that it actually needs this issue to function correctly, & once upon a time, it did. But what protected you when you were four, cannot have a viable place in your psyche when you are thirty four. It cannot, & should not, either. And this is why people get angry & frustrated at not being able to have what others have that they see as good, or healthy. The old wound, the old issue that was inflicted when we were eighteen months is still being held onto. Carl Jung called this the Kingfisher wound. 

 The Kingfisher wound is the first wound inflicted upon the little girl by her mother, & the father upon the son.  In mythology it is represented by the piercing of a testicle of the young Knight. He cannot move it, & needs someone sensitive enough to help him remove it, & fast, yet he cannot ask the person who caused it; his father, & it is just that person that he would dearly love to ask to remove it. The first time a person is inflicted with the Kingfisher energy they are scarred for life. They will need to work things out, but if they are wise they will get there because others who have been scarred by the Kingfisher will arrive at their door to assist, in their own way.

 Being around angry, frustrated people can also leave a strange effect upon the psyche. For anger is also an unproductive emotion, & causes many problem to the owner & recipient. I remember myself being with an ex, & every time I tried to discuss her past with her, you know, so that we could learn & grow, I would literally fall asleep. She had this disconcerting feeling of making me fall asleep every time she became anxious. But what it was was an ability she had to self-protect. If there were any threats coming from the `outside`, ones that could open her up, then she had this formidable inner power that could knock anyone out. She was in effect hiding behind her repressed anger. 

 Don`t hang onto unproductive emotions they serve no purpose other than to keep you locked to your misery. By staying attached to the past pain you stay attached to an unproductive, unhappy life. Real people love you, & want to be near you, but as long as your attached to your lies & repression, nobody will be able to get near to you. That`s sad, & your going to see good people coming in, then going out again. Don`t be a side-liner, watching your world slip away, eaten up by those that give nothing. Smile back, show love, & above all, do not be afraid. The good ones will always reach out to protect you, should you feel open. And, guess what, the real ones won`t expect anything in return either. They are happy to assist beautiful people because they can spot one when one appears. 

 The next time you spot a beautiful soul, & you do because your used to them leaving you, get near to it, just like the children do, they don`t have any inhibitions, they rush into beauty, straight away, get close to it. You know you can trust it !

 Love, always